Ah, the boyfriend in the equasion explains it all XD That's the reason most people in this town haven't moved away (probably me too, but I'm in a serious seven-and-a-half year relationship). The chances are that even if she did move to Berlin along with some of her current friends, her priorities would change anyway and she wouldn't spend time with them. Some people are just like that - they accumulate a mass group of people who really are never "true" friends, they are just individuals who have shared a small part of their life with them. Lol, it's like a crazy bride who invites 200 people to her wedding even though only about five of them mean anything to her and the rest are just to look good.
It's never nice when a long friendship disintegrates but sometimes it just happens. Distance has never really been an issue with my friends: a lot of them live a very long way away but I've kept in contact with them and made the effort to see them because they mean something to me. It's when you realise that you can no longer be bothered even sending an SMS on their birthday or whatever then it's time to call it to an end. Sometimes it can be with someone who lives very close to you, so where they live has nothing to do with it. I almost split it off with someone I've been friends with since we were four since turned into a shitty person for a while there, but I just cooled it from her for about a month and then got back in contact with her when I felt she'd calmed down a little. It's been worth it so far, and I'm glad I didn't lose her as a close friend but the couple of times it has happened have been very long and painful :( That's just life, but looking back on it, it was for the best that the friendships ended.
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Date: 2009-01-27 10:41 pm (UTC)It's never nice when a long friendship disintegrates but sometimes it just happens. Distance has never really been an issue with my friends: a lot of them live a very long way away but I've kept in contact with them and made the effort to see them because they mean something to me. It's when you realise that you can no longer be bothered even sending an SMS on their birthday or whatever then it's time to call it to an end. Sometimes it can be with someone who lives very close to you, so where they live has nothing to do with it. I almost split it off with someone I've been friends with since we were four since turned into a shitty person for a while there, but I just cooled it from her for about a month and then got back in contact with her when I felt she'd calmed down a little. It's been worth it so far, and I'm glad I didn't lose her as a close friend but the couple of times it has happened have been very long and painful :( That's just life, but looking back on it, it was for the best that the friendships ended.