dog situation

[urania]

Sooo, yesterday I got a dog from the shelter and she's really cute and nice and precious, but somehow this is stressing me out so much. :(
She barked twice during the night and that really isn't allowed to happen when you live in a flat. :( And then when I took her shopping today she barked the whole time she had to wait outside. When you live her alone in the flat/a room, she whines a lot. And she seems scared of our kitchen.
I just... I feel so bad and anxious that she would be better of somewhere else and what if I'm a shitty dog owner. I've been so stressed all day today that I can't even eat anything. Argh, I'm just so unsure now. Now we're still in the trial phase, so she isn't my dog yet, and... I just don't know. :( I might have to take her back, and I just feel horrible.

Comments

[sighnomore.livejournal.com]

Gaaanz ruhig :) Ihr müsst euch doch beide erstmal aneiander gewöhnen. Das is völlig normal dass man am Anfang so gestresst ist. Sie ist wahrscheinlich auch gestresst! Das wird sich alles einpendeln!

[urania-chan.livejournal.com]

Ich hoffe, du hast recht. Nur das mit dem Bellen muss in der Wohnung leider aufhören, da hab ich keine Zeit ewig lange zu erziehen. :(

[luna-glass-wall.livejournal.com]

You've only had the dog a day, right? She's probably nervous and unsure of her surroundings, and afraid of being left alone, hence all the barking. If she doesn't start acclimating, or continues to bark constantly after acclimating, then it's not the right environment for her, but I wouldn't take one day as being indicative of whether you should keep her or if you're a bad dog owner :)

[urania-chan.livejournal.com]

Yeah, just one day. I'm just stressing so much right now, I can't even eat. :( So I'm just really unsure whether I actually can own a dog and then I think she would be much better off somewhere where people can properly care for her.

[angrylogic.livejournal.com]

Don't feel bad. This is exactly what happened when we trialed a dog earlier this year, and 8've had dogs for over twenty years. He wouldn't settle so we ended up having to rehome him with someone the charity put us in contact with. If you do have to give her up, just remember that it would have been worse to keep her. Fingers crossed that she's just a bit upset at new surroundings but please don't feel bad f you can't keep her!

[urania-chan.livejournal.com]

Thank you. :( And yeah, I just think it'd be better for her to get a better/more fitting home as well, but I just still feel horrible. I've just worked myself up over it now, and I haven't even eaten today. :( I just don't think it'll be nice for her here and if she barks we're gonna get in trouble with the neighbours, so... but I really just feel like crying. ;(

[angrylogic.livejournal.com]

Li was crying when we had to give the dog up and we'd only had him for one day and night. Everyone was so stressed we felt it wasn't worth waiting to see if things 'might' turn out okay. We gave him to a family with kids who could spoil him, and even though we knew it was the perfect home for him it was still upsetting :( I know the dog is happy now bt it still makes you feel like shit. Thing is though that feeling like shit shows you care!

[conceals.livejournal.com]

The dog could be barking because of the new environment and may stop... but it could also be that the dog is a barker. It's important that you figure out what will be good for the both of you. If it's just going to stress you out to keep her, she will sense that, you know?

Know that you're not a shitty dog owner (not at all!!) but getting a rescue dog is hard. Sometimes it's a good fit, sometimes not. There's a reason this is a trial! If the shelter never ran into an issue with dogs not being a right fit for certain environments, they wouldn't have a trial be part of the process.

I think just the fact that you're thinking it might be worth it to re-home her is a sign that you're a good person and a good dog owner because you're taking her needs/wants into consideration :) Do what feels right and try not to make yourself feel bad about it, regardless of your decision. <3

[victoriabloom.livejournal.com]

<3

If it's still the trial phase, give her a few more days to get accustomed to her surroundings. If she's still barking (whether it's because she's just a dog who barks a lot, or because she's not comfortable in this environment) and you have to give her back, please remember that making that decision makes you a good owner, not a shitty one. A shitty one would selfishly keep her in an environment that isn't good for her. I hope everything works out, but if you do decide to give her back remember that that's you being a good owner and making a decision that is in her best interest. <3